Job, Career, or Just a Baffling Existential Crisis?

For Jack, 19, with one foot in music, the other in computer science, and a third in reality.

Most friends are working to buy things and hating it. That is the machine humming. Here is how to see the code and choose your moves.

Part I. Welcome to the Machine

At nineteen, the world of work looks simple. Pick something you are good at, money appears, you spend it, repeat. Then you notice the mood. Friends drag themselves to shifts, stare at pay, buy things that briefly sparkle, then say Monday again with a sigh. They call this real life.

The system is not a conspiracy. It is a set of incentives that runs beautifully so long as everyone stays plugged in. You swap hours for money, then swap money for distractions, then wonder why you feel thinner at the end of the month than at the start. The Matrix does not need you happy. It needs you compliant.

Seeing the Matrix starts with noticing that the walls are chalk, not granite. Chalk can be rubbed out. Granite needs dynamite. You do not need dynamite.

Exercise: list three things your friends buy that make them happy for more than a week. Be honest. The shortness of the list is the machine's hum.

Part II. The Three Masks

Job

Time for cash. Useful for rent. Dangerous if you expect it to provide identity. A job is a tap. Turn it on when you need water. Do not try to live inside it.

Career

A compounding story. Skills, proof, and networks that travel when titles do not. Careers are portable assets disguised as biographies.

Vocation

A pull toward work that feels like you. Music, code, writing. You would do it for free. Sometimes you have to. Meaning lives here.

Most people muddle the masks. They seek meaning from a job, prestige from a vocation, and security from a ladder bolted to a collapsing wall. The fix is simple. Wear the right mask for the right reason, and change masks when the season changes.

Exercise: draw three columns: Job, Career, Vocation. Place your current activities. Circle the one that gives energy. Put a star on the one that pays rent. You need both circled and starred somewhere across the page.

Part III. Spotting the Illusions

The illusion of necessity

You must have a job. Not quite. You need income. A job is one packaging of it. So are gigs, retainers, royalties, bursaries, and odd mixtures.

The illusion of permanence

Climb the ladder and you will be safe. Ladders vanish when industries tilt. Safety is not the ladder. Safety is the muscles you built while climbing.

The illusion of consumption

Buy more and you will be happy. Shopping is a mood, not a meaning. At best it is a short holiday from yourself. The bill forwards your post.

Exercise: take the last three things you bought. Did they give competence, autonomy, or connection. If not, they were Matrix sweets. Sweets are allowed, just not as a diet.

Part IV. Happiness Without Hallucination

Fun is sugar. Happiness is nutrition. Happiness is built from three ingredients you can grow on purpose.

  • Competence: getting better at something real. Progress has a sound. It is quiet, then obvious.
  • Autonomy: control over time and choice. It starts small, like choosing your hours, and ends large, like choosing your projects.
  • Connection: mattering to someone else. The feeling that your work changed another person’s day for the better.

Jobs often give one ingredient. Careers can give two. Vocations can give all three on a good week, and none on a bad one. The Matrix tries to sell substitutes. None of them work for long.

Exercise: score your current week 1 to 10 for competence, autonomy, and connection. Pick the lowest. Name one step that raises it by one point this month.

Part V. Track A — Music

Music is a vocation that pretends to be a carnival. Lights, noise, applause. The real work is quieter. It is finishing pieces, building relationships, and stacking small incomes without letting the costs eat them.

Income stack that survives reality

  • Teaching one or two students per evening, two evenings per week. Reliable cash. Improves your own chops.
  • Session work remote stems, clear briefs, clean rates, quick turnaround.
  • Live residencies over one offs. Rebooking is compound interest.
  • Mix and master simple tiers, three before and after examples, turnaround promise you can keep.
  • Sync libraries one track per week. Catalogue beats perfectionism.
  • Merch only after repeat gigs. Preorders beat dusty boxes under the bed.

Portfolio that books work

  • Three 30 second reels: one pop, one cinematic, one experimental. No waffle. Just sound.
  • A one page site: who you help, players, rates, booking link, three testimonials.
  • Before and after mixes. Let ears decide. They are less political than LinkedIn.

Costs kill more musicians than critics. Keep burn low so you can say yes to the right unpaid door openers and no to the wrong paid time sinks.

30 day sprint: finish 4 tracks, upload 2 live clips, pitch 10 tracks to 3 libraries, land 1 paid mix. Review what compounded at the end.

Part VI. Track B — Computer Science

Software pays more predictably. The trick is to make your ability legible. Employers do not buy adjectives. They buy evidence.

Skills to show in plain sight

  • Build a small front end app with auth and payments, a back end API with tests, and a tiny data pipeline.
  • Think write short design docs. List trade offs. Show you can say no for the right reasons.
  • Ship small features weekly. A changelog beats a portfolio paragraph.

Portfolio that gets calls

  • Three pinned repos: production ready mini app, small open source fix, data notebook with a story and chart.
  • README with problem, approach, screenshots, and a live link. No drama. Just clarity.
  • Two posts: the bug you hunted and how you made something faster. Short and exact.

Pathways that actually work

  • Apprenticeship or internship where you ship real features. Not coffee.
  • Freelance two scoped gigs for local businesses. Invoice cleanly. Protect scope.
  • Open source one issue per month. Small, consistent, visible.
90 day build: clone a niche product, add one unique feature, deploy, write 400 words on the hardest trade off, ask three engineers for feedback, iterate once.

Part VII. Track C — The Unrelated Job

Sometimes the shortest path to the life you want is a job that is not the life you want. The key is to treat it as a funding mechanism, not an identity. You are not your rota. You are the system that rota funds.

Pick with intent

  • Stable hours with minimal creep into evenings.
  • Decent hourly rate and short commute.
  • Portable skills: sales, ops, customer success, logistics, bookkeeping.

Operate like a pro

  • Negotiate fixed rotas so mornings or evenings are protected for music or code.
  • Automate payday buckets so progress continues while you are tired.
  • Set a review date. Six months. Decide to stay, step up, or step out.
Design prompt: if you took a non-career job tomorrow, write the calendar blocks that protect three evenings a week for portfolio work. Put the blocks in your phone now.

Part VIII. Beating the Matrix

  • Own your burn rate. Low costs equal high courage. Freedom hides in cheap rent and home cooking.
  • Buy tools, not toys. Gear that earns or learns compounds. Toys depreciate quietly then loudly.
  • Automate the boring. Standing orders into buckets. Discipline while you sleep.
  • Evidence over opinion. One shipped track, repo, or project per month outlasts arguments about potential.
  • Keep two income options. Music plus tutoring. Code plus freelance. Job plus portfolio. Optionality is power.
Money drill: write your monthly burn. Cut 10 percent without pain. Redirect to emergency, ISA, and fun. Fun is fuel, not sabotage.

Part IX. A Weekly Operating System

Time rhythm

  • Four creation sessions on music or code. Phone on aeroplane mode. Timer on 60 minutes.
  • One admin session. Invoices, tidy repos, answer people, plan next sprint.
  • One relationship session. Two messages to people you respect with something useful, not needy.

Money rhythm

  • On payday: 20 percent investing, 10 percent future goal, 5 percent emergency until full.
  • Fun pot exists so the system is livable. No martyrdom.
  • Track one number: savings rate. Higher beats fancier.

It is boring. That is the point. Boring systems create exciting options.

Calendar drill: sketch a week on purpose. Compare to last week. Note one change that buys you two extra creation hours.

Part X. Common Traps That Feel Sensible

  • Promotion chasing. Title inflation without proof. Travels badly.
  • Busywork heroics. Long hours on low leverage tasks. Exhaustion is not a plan.
  • Company monogamy. Identity fused to one logo. Risk concentrated, options reduced.
  • Comparison. Other people’s timelines are not your map.
Countermeasure: quarterly review against your compass. If work and direction diverge, correct course early and quietly.

Part XI. Decision Rules

  • Persist when quality is rising and inbound interest is creeping up.
  • Pivot when a niche change improves odds more than doubling hours.
  • Park when six months show no lift despite honest effort. Park is not quit. Park is later.
One page review: what worked, what did not, what to change. One paragraph each. Then act.

Part XII. Closing — Freedom First, Things Later

Your friends are working jobs they dislike to buy things they like slightly more, then numbing the gap with more things. The Matrix is not evil. It is indifferent. It will keep humming whether you are fulfilled or not.

Freedom is not being rich. Freedom is not having to say yes when you mean no. Happiness is not constant joy. Happiness is coherence. Enough competence, autonomy, and connection that your life points in one direction instead of several.

So do not ask which job you should get. Ask which system you are building. Every payslip, every repo, every gig is a line of code. Write sloppy code and you will be debugging life at forty. Write with intent and the program runs quietly while you make music, build products, and pick your people on purpose.

Final exercise: write two scripts of your life at thirty. Version A stayed plugged in. Version B built capital, autonomy, and connection. Which script do you want to inhabit. What will you do this week to move one line toward it.

Appendix — Exercises Index

  1. List three purchases that deliver happiness beyond a week.
  2. Place current activities under Job, Career, Vocation. Circle energy and star rent.
  3. Audit last three purchases for competence, autonomy, connection.
  4. Score competence, autonomy, connection for this week. Raise the lowest by one point.
  5. Music sprint: 4 tracks, 2 clips, 10 pitches, 1 paid mix.
  6. CS build: mini app, deploy, 400 words on trade off, feedback, iterate.
  7. Unrelated job calendar that protects three evenings.
  8. Money drill: cut burn by 10 percent and redirect to buckets.
  9. Calendar drill: buy two creation hours with one change.
  10. Quarterly one page review and decision rule.
  11. Final script at thirty. Choose and act.

© 2024 Imperem • Freedom before things. Happiness equals competence plus autonomy plus connection. Review quarterly. Adjust calmly.

```